Del dolor a la Gracia

¿Pensando en asistir?

Si está considerando asistir al retiro de sanación post-abuso, seguramente tiene muchas preguntas. Sobre todo, qué experimentará como participante. Para poder sacarle todas las dudas y brindarle toda la información que necesite, no dude en ponerse en contacto con nosotros. De todas maneras, en este espacio intentaremos responder a los interrogantes más habituales.

Preguntas frecuentes

¿A qué grupo de personas le sirve este retiro?

El retiro está pensado para adultos y jóvenes que sufrieron abuso o negligencia, ya sea en forma física, emocional o sexual. Incluye también a quienes fueron abusados por miembros de su familia, parientes más lejanos y otros. El retiro busca trabajar el trauma psicológico, emocional y espiritual.

¿Cuál es el beneficio de mezclar víctimas abusadas por sacerdotes con quienes sufrieron abuso en el sistema familiar o en instituciones?

Quienes sufrieron abuso por parte del clero testimonian que fue extremadamente bueno para ellos el escuchar las historias de los demás participantes, abusados en otros ámbitos. Aseguran que los ayudó a expandir su noción de ‘víctima’, y a salir del resentimiento y el odio hacia su propio duelo.

¿En qué consiste este retiro?

“Del dolor a la Gracia” es un retiro espiritual de cuatro días. Busca ayudar a sanar las heridas que deja una experiencia de abuso sexual. Sirve también para quienes sufrieron indirectamente el trauma (padres, hermanos, abuelos, sobrinos, etc). Este programa, que surgió en EE.UU., también se lleva adelante en la Argentina.

Quienes los llevan adelante -profesionales de la salud y voluntarios formados-, ayudan a los participantes a través de un programa de ejercicios con reestructuración cognitiva y trabajo de duelo. Viajar al misterio pascual de la propia vida y unir el propio sufrimiento al de Cristo, puede ayudar a compartir también la Resurrección, encontrando amor, ternura, pertenencia, seguridad, alegría y paz.

Quienes desarrollaron este programa han constatado que el trabajo grupal se convierte en una poderosa fuente de apoyo y curación. A menudo el tema del abuso resulta vergonzoso y se mantiene en secreto. Un retiro de grupo contrarresta esto, ya que quienes participan escuchan a otros que han pasado por un sufrimiento similar, que “hablan el mismo idioma”. Es importante destacar que no se obliga a los participantes a hacer nada que ellos no quieren: sólo comparten su experiencia cuando se sienten cómodos.

Hay ayuda

Si usted ha sufrido abuso, es posible que haya vivido en un gran aislamiento y soledad, o puede tener miedo de ser juzgado como indigno o como culpable. Queremos que pueda recuperar su belleza única. Vale la pena que así sea.

Entendemos que puede ser difícil hablar de lo que ha sucedido y que las personas interesadas pueden pasar por un largo camino hasta que llegan a la decisión de asistir a un retiro como este. Por eso los invitamos a ponerse en contacto con total confianza para obtener más información.

A Message from the Founders

Grief to Grace: Healing the Wounds of Abuse is a psychological and spiritual program for anyone who has suffered degradation or violation through physical, emotional, sexual, or spiritual abuse. It is appropriate for those who have endured sexual abuse, rape, incest, neglect, or other forms of traumatic violation in childhood, adolescence, or as an adult. It is also suitable for those who have suffered abuse by a minister or a member of the clergy.

Grief to Grace is a process for helping victims of abuse to discover spiritual healing and transformation. This program was created to end the isolation and secrets of abuse within a retreat process that is fully centered upon the person and presence of Jesus Christ, the Divine Physician. By entering into an intimate and powerful journey through the Sorrowful Mysteries, participants are gently invited to unite their own suffering with the passion of Jesus. By traveling the paschal mystery of their own lives, they will also share in the new life of His resurrection.

Grief to Grace is a journey of Faith. The Living Scriptures, together with journaling, group activities, therapeutic facilitation, cognitive restructuring, discussions and grief work, offer an effective healing process grounded in Jesus Christ, the Word of God, and the Sacraments. Grief to Grace is a powerful psychological and spiritual journey providing safety and hope in the midst of emotional chaos. It is a pilgrimage to discover the love, tenderness, belonging, safety, joy, and peace that are often missing from the stories of abuse victims.”

-Dr. Theresa Burke, PhD

Read More about the Founders of Grief to Grace

Grief to Grace was written by the same couple that founded Rachel’s Vineyard Ministries, for healing after abortion. For more information visit: www.rachelsvineyard.org

A Brief Explanation of What Grief to Grace Hopes to Accomplish

When we pray the Lord’s Prayer we ask God to “forgive us our trespasses, as we forgive those who trespass against us.” When we forgive one another we are set free of the past, we are born again into the possibilities for the present moment; we are released from the endless struggles, repetitions, and reenactments of the old stories that have dominated our lives.

Forgiveness is eventually required because it is forgiveness that sets us free from the bondage of the past. Forgiveness enables us to grow in heart and spirit – it enables our soul to move beyond the pain. The deeper the hurt and the more dominant the injustice, the more we are invited to grieve, to descend into our pain, and to surrender and let go into forgiveness.

We were created to love, because we are created in the image and likeness of God. Once healing has occurred, we are not afraid to face truth or proclaim it because we have been freed by it. In recovery, the wounds that bind us in captivity and isolation are opened, cleansed and redeemed as Christ invites us to find meaning and transformation in the victory of His resurrection.

Indeed, we need a savior. We need a redeemer who can handle the dirty sad secrets conceived by a sinful and fallen humanity. Christ is the Light. We are invited to receive love and comfort from someone who has suffered everything we have suffered. Jesus is The Lamb of God, who takes away the sins of the world.” (John 1:29) He has already carried the passion and hurt of each and every vicious sin ever conceived in the heart of man. He is familiar with abuse, with persecution, with violence, and betrayal. He has also been victimized by those who tried desperately to abort his mission of love.

Who else could we possibly trust to embrace the depth of our pain? Who else can we trust to understand the tears of grief that drown our weary souls? Who else can we dare to approach to unshackle the chains that have kept us in prisons of despair? Who else can possibly understand our feelings of abandonment – the sunken feeling that God has forgotten us and that our strivings have been in vain? Who else but Christ can model for us the extraordinary and courageous grace of forgiveness?

Jesus taught that in this world we would have great tribulation – but he also promised us the gift of his Peace, a peace the world cannot take away. From Grief to Grace helps participants to experience how the works of God might be manifest through the painful events in their own lives. The process will help them recognize in their own stories of death and destruction that Jesus has truly come to bring us new life. Even in the midst of our pain is a place of grace, a moment of spiritual promise and healing – a resurrection.

This retreat is a journey into the heart of suffering. It is a passage of surrender into the cross of our own afflictions. It is a voyage directly into the outstretched arms of God himself. Jesus has removed the barrier that has separated us from the almighty “I AM.” The curtain has been torn and there is no longer any divide between God and his chosen people. He invites us to learn who we really are. He welcomes us. He longs to comfort us. He encourages us to come close to him, and thereby discover our own true selves. His mission is a cry for justice, until all forms of violence are conquered through the power of Love. He invites us to new life!

Our retreat manual has received both the Nihil Obstat and Imprimatur 9/29/2006